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Friendship....???

To most people it seems to come easy but honestly how many of you can say that you have more than 5 good friends.or that you have had several good friends for more than a few months.  When I was 18, I took Holly to the bus stop so she could leave for boot camp.  I was devastated and I cried for hours.  When I got home I talked to my mom about it and she said that I shouldn’t be hurt because friendships don't last and Holly and I may never and probably wouldn't ever talk again.  (Man did we prove her wrong!! Lol)  That crushed me even more.  Now that I'm an adult I totally understand why my mom said what she said.  I can barely say that I'm friends with people that I met 5 months ago let alone 5 years ago.  Its hard to find friends that stick with you come hell or high water. Even when you think people are your friends, most of the time you learn that they're only in it for themselves not for the whole.

As I get older all I want is are trustworthy people that will stick by me no matter what and that will accept me for all of my faults. Why is that so hard to find?  Most of the time it seems near impossible......

What do u guys think?

5 FRIENDSHIP DO'S

1. Always be honest
2. Always have you're friends back and look out for one another
3. Always be supportive (even if you don't like the situation)
4. Be a good listener without criticizing
5. If your friend tells you a secret, keep it a secret!

5 FRIENDSHIP DON'TS

6. Don't judge
7. Don't take your friend for granted
8. Don't date or have sex with your friends ex.
9. Don't make promises you can't keep
10. Don't Lie

Holly's Thoughts on Friendship

Friendship

Friendship to me is an important part of life. Friendship allows us to have relationships with people outside of our family units. A good friendship swings both ways in order to open our eyes to see the world from different perspectives.  I’ve found it harder to have good solid friendships with people as I get older. I think that it is because as I mature so do my moral and ethical values. Also from the perspective of a mother I began to look at the behaviors of the people I associate with and use that to decide if they are a good choice as a friend for me. The type of friends you have around you says more about a you than most would care to admit. I think while is it important to be respectful and polite towards all people it is imperative that we be selective about the people we have in our lives and that a responsible parent engages in friendships with people that will set good examples for their children as well. I also think that the people we choose to have in our lives will ultimately affect which people our children choose to have in their lives. When you have a “true friendship” with someone they integrate into your lives and the lives of your family members.

My Top 5 “Do’s” of Friendship:

1.       Listen: Sometimes listening is the only thing you have to do in certain circumstances to be a good friend. When you listen to someone they more easily trust you and trust is (in my opinion) the fundamental building block for any relationship.

2.       Be understanding: You don’t have to know what your friend is going through. The important thing is that you remember that they are going through something. You don’t have to agree with where your friend is coming from but you should always try to understand their perspective and allow yourself to be open to their side of things.

3.       Apologize: Saying you are sorry is more than just the words. When you are wrong and you apologize not only does it show your ability to be humble it also shows them that you value who they are as a person and validates that you respect their feelings.

4.       Defend: Always come to your friend’s defense. If you are with your friend stand beside them so that they know they are not alone.  And if your friend is not there to defend herself stand up for her! If is so important that you hold your friendship above careless gossip, spiteful accusations, and random misunderstandings.

5.       Be Honest: You should always be honest with your friend. Friend’s don’t say what they think they want their friends to hear. That’s just for the movies. A good friend and a friendship built on trust can withstand honesty even in its most rudimentary form. Honesty at other levels means that you don’t keep things from a friend that they may find out later and also that you are honest with them about who you are ethically and morally.

My Top 5 “Don’ts”

1.       Criticize: You should never make a friend feel bad about something they do or think. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Criticizing a friend is no worse than judging a book by its cover, and we all know that’s taboo lol.  Constructive criticism is the key.

2.       Tell your friend what to do: Who wants to be the “bossy one” anyway?! Be suggestive without being a dictator. Offer your opinions and allow your friend to make their own choice.

3.       Backstab: Backstabbing is the surest way to ruin the trust that has been built in a friendship. If you are around other friends or acquaintances who are talking about your friend DO speak up for them. Not only will it show the loyalty of your character it may earn some respect in the eyes of those other people.

4.       Assume: Don’t assume just because you have been friends with this person that certain things are acceptable. No matter how long you are friend with someone they are still individuals and have different feelings and outlooks towards the ways of the world.

5.       Disrespect: Never blatantly disrespect your friend. Remember, as I said before, they may be your very best friend in the world but they are still their own person. For example just because you think it is okay to scream at a friend when you are angry does not mean that your friend thinks it is okay. Where you might see screaming as an outlet for frustration a friend my see it as disrespectful and childish.     

PLEASE ADD COMMENTS AND LET ME KNOW IF YOU AGREE OR DISAGREE! :o)

Meet Holly

Hello Everyone,

Tracey and I have been best friends for over half of our lives. We have not lived in the same time zone in over half that time but continue to maintain a friendship closer than if we were living right next door to each other. We talk all the time and we talk about things that most people don't talk about and most people don't trust anyone well enough to talk about. During one of our morning conversations we realized that it would be nice to have a place to go to talk to "friends" about anything and everything and decided we should create such a place for the women of the world.

The purpose of this blog is to give our readers a place to go to talk about anything and everything. We aren't afraid to address the tough subjects and (almost) nothing is off limits. We want to bring new ideas and a fresh friendly perspective to all of the daily life obstacles, triumphs and concerns women face. Our idea for this blog is that we want our readers to feel like they are sitting around drinking coffee with friends. We want out blog to be interactive so that you feel like you are a part of it too, so make sure you vote for our next Post topic and don't be afraid to comment at the bottom on the page. Now a little about me:

I am a 30 year old women. I enjoy being a stay at home mom and most things that come with it. I have been married for 11 years to a wonderful man. I love learning new things and have become a connoisseur of information, techniques, and general life occurrences.  I served 4+ years in the United States Air Force and worked odd jobs here and there but motherhood has been the biggest adventure in my life thus far. I have an associates degree in business administration and am currently seeking my bachelors degree in Applied Psychology. I love helping people and giving them a different, new, or fresh way of looking at things.

Meet Tracey

Hello everyone!! I just wanted to take a few minutes to introduce myself.  My name is Tracey. I am originally from a small town in upstate New York that isn't found on most maps.  I am 30 years old and the proud mother of a beautiful 7 year old little girl.  She is the light of my life.  After high school I went into the military and then got engaged to the man that I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with.  Little did I know I would end up moving to New Mexico, leaving him and then meeting the father of my daughter.  From there my life changed dramatically.  I learned how to be a mom and a housewife (without being married).  After about a year we broke up and that was when I learned how to be a just a single working mom.  I wouldn't change my life and I have no regrets, only learning experiences.

I could go on and on with my timeline but that would take more than a few minutes lol. 

I'm definitely not an expert on any subject but I've been through a lot in my life and I would love to share my experiences and opinions with others in hopes to benefit them.  Holly has been my best friend since we were 12 years old and together we have experienced some of the best and worst moments that two people can experience.  Even though we live miles apart, we have maintained our friendship and have grown together.  I appreciate everything about her and don't know how I would have made it this far without her. 

One day while having coffee, Holly and I decided to start this blog to cover all of the topics that she and I usually discuss while we spend hours on the phone talking about life and love.  Even though she and I live two very different lives we can still relate on a variety of subjects.  We decided that it would be great for all women like us to have a place to discuss these subjects without fear of being criticized. Please feel free of comment or ask any questions, we will be happy to address all of them!

Have a great day!!