To most people it seems to come easy but honestly how many of you can say that you have more than 5 good friends.or that you have had several good friends for more than a few months. When I was 18, I took Holly to the bus stop so she could leave for boot camp. I was devastated and I cried for hours. When I got home I talked to my mom about it and she said that I shouldn’t be hurt because friendships don't last and Holly and I may never and probably wouldn't ever talk again. (Man did we prove her wrong!! Lol) That crushed me even more. Now that I'm an adult I totally understand why my mom said what she said. I can barely say that I'm friends with people that I met 5 months ago let alone 5 years ago. Its hard to find friends that stick with you come hell or high water. Even when you think people are your friends, most of the time you learn that they're only in it for themselves not for the whole.
As I get older all I want is are trustworthy people that will stick by me no matter what and that will accept me for all of my faults. Why is that so hard to find? Most of the time it seems near impossible......
What do u guys think?
5 FRIENDSHIP DO'S
- Always be honest
- Always have you're friends back and look out for one another
- Always be supportive (even if you don't like the situation)
- Be a good listener without criticizing
- If your friend tells you a secret, keep it a secret!
5 FRIENDSHIP DON'TS
- Don't judge
- Don't take your friend for granted
- Don't date or have sex with your friends ex.
- Don't make promises you can't keep
- Don't Lie
Hey Tracey, it's Holly. I agree with everything you said. As I've gotten older I've realized it's the quality of friendships that matters now the number of friends that you have. It is hard to find people whom you can call your friend for more than just a short period of time. Is friendship suppose to be a disposable as it seems to be these days? I would dare say no and hope that I would be correct!!
ReplyDeleteWhat does everyone else think? Are you having a hard time meeting people and/or building friendships? Are you looking for a deeper connection or do you think people are better off have acquaintances?
i moved down to NC a little over a year ago ~ not knowing anyone i was desperate to make friends & meet people to fill the void of the friends & family I left behind ~ naturally I met all the wrong people at first ~ people are NOT what they seem ~ over the months i have developed new friendships that i feel are more sincere.
ReplyDeleteI think the problems is that most people are simply not "friend material." They're self-absorbed and ego-centric and have little desire to maintain a friendship past a certain point, which is usually the point where the other person is no longer useful to them. Maintaining meaningful friendships is hard work, and the majority of people are not interested in that. It's easier (for social-minded people) to meander through life, picking up and discarding friends as they go.
ReplyDeleteMe, on the other hand, I'm not a social person. I don't meet people easy, so the friends that I have are ones that I value and cherish. There are perhaps three, in total, to whom I am completely loyal. But these are deep, wide friendships that have only grown. Most other people are simply acquaintances.
Interstingly, I can go months without speaking to them or seeing them. Because, well, I'm a loner, as are they for the most part. And parting ways is something I've done a great deal of, friendships be damned. But when we speak or meet it's like we've never parted. That's the measure of a true friendship, I think. Being comfortable and secure in the silence. Always enjoying one's company, but not feeling that one's company must always be there. A lot of people feel that way. Like they have to see their friend every single day and do everything with them and know everything and then get upset when they don't. That's not friendship. That's codependency.
Hi Uncle: Tracey and I have gone yers without speaking to one another and have always been able to pick up where we left off. I agree with you and understand what you mean when you say "that's co-dependency". I honestly never looked at things that way but suddenly I realize a few of my relationships have been just that.
ReplyDeleteCertainly co-dependent relationships are not healthy for either party. But are acquaintanceships? Should people be forthcoming with their intentions when meeting people or is it a process we must subject ourselves to?
I begining to think that making friends is like dating, meandering through the heard looking for the people who want to stick around and whom you want around as well.
co-dependent is extremely insightful ~ i kinda think acquaintance relationships would fall under the category of people you know but don't really hang with & consider friends ~
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